One of the greatest fears associated with aging is the loss of independence. As children, we eagerly await the day we become independent, and it’s hard to imagine giving it up. Although the physical and mental changes that come with aging may require us to live our lives differently, it doesn't mean we have to give up independence.
Understanding this Concern
Chronic pain, mobility limitations, cognitive decline, medical conditions, financial strain, and changes in vision and hearing can all affect how we perform daily activities. Often, pride, stubbornness, or denial make us resist necessary lifestyle changes. This can significantly impact our independence, especially in areas like driving, managing finances, and making decisions.
Loss of Control and Autonomy
As we age, needing assistance with daily tasks can lead to a feeling of lost control over our lives. This can be deeply upsetting. The fear of giving up some tasks often includes the worry that we might eventually have to give up all decision-making.
Changing Sense of Identity
Many of us have been caregivers or decision-makers in our families. Accepting support from others can alter our self-perception and our role within the family.
Fear of Becoming a Burden
A common fear among older adults is not wanting to burden family members. This often leads to denying the need for assistance.
Impacts of Losing Independence
Depression: Decreased functional ability, reduced mobility, and financial issues are common causes of depression in older adults. These issues are closely linked to a loss of independence. Additionally, excessive or unhelpful social support can increase the risk of depression.
Social Isolation and Loneliness: Reduced independence often leads to less social interaction and difficulty participating in community activities, increasing the risk of isolation and loneliness.
Loss of Hobbies and Interests: Physical or cognitive limitations can prevent older adults from continuing hobbies and activities that previously brought them joy and purpose.
Anxiety: Concerns about further physical or cognitive decline can increase anxiety regarding one’s health.
Preserving Independence
It's crucial to help older adults maintain as much independence as possible for as long as possible. Here are some suggestions to help foster independence:
Ask to Help and Offer Options
One way to let older adults keep control is by asking if they need help and offering choices instead of making decisions for them. Explore alternatives and resources that can support them.
Offer Tech Solutions
Technological solutions can greatly aid older adults - from medication management and ridesharing to social engagement and home monitoring. Setting up online bill paying and prepaid cards can also help maintain independence.
Be a Partner in Caregiving
Instead of doing everything for your loved one, caregivers can do activities alongside them as a partner in care. For those with cognitive decline, supported decision-making in financial or healthcare matters ensures they are still involved in the process.
Promote Staying Active and Engaged
Encouraging older adults to stay connected with others and engaged in regular activities can help them maintain their sense of self. Families should encourage routines and incorporate activities that improve balance and strength.
By understanding the fears and impacts of losing independence, and by taking proactive steps, we can help older adults retain their autonomy and quality of life. Contact Mellie to learn more about how we can support you as a family caregiver and connect you with the resources and information you need to maintain the quality of life and independence of your loved one.
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